How to handle a student on probation…
The first reaction a parent has to his or her student being on probation is to call the school. Don’t do it. At times, this may be necessary, but it is more important at this point to talk to your student. Let your student advocate for himself. Have him make the necessary contacts with the college.
You can discuss this situation with your student, and offer your suggestion, (if asked) but it is very important to encourage your student to seek support from the college. You are not the problem solver – he is. If you do feel that you need to call the college, tell your student that you will be doing so. Involve the student in the process.
When the student has adjusted to the reality of the probationary status, you can explore the options. Remember that your student may be frightened and need your support right now.
Figure out the reasons for his difficulty. Insist that the student create a plan for change. Set both long and short term goals and plan the steps to accomplish those goals. Be sure to set reasonable expectations and standards. You may need to reconsider your expectations of your student. Maybe they are too high. Can he reasonably do his schoolwork and have a part-time job? Should the student have a car? Should your student remain on campus rather than come home often? Should your student become more involved on campus?
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