Coping with Constant Rejection

Coping with rejection can be tough. I know, because after five years of college, the only solid job offers I’ve had (and there hasn’t been many) in the last 8 weeks have been for low-wage cleaning and fast food jobs. Not a single one of the many dozens of resumes that I’ve submitted has landed me the job of my choice–or any good-paying job. I’ve swung from feelings of total frustration to utter worthlessness. Many of you may have had to deal with constant turn-downs. You have good resumes and cover letters, are perfectly capable, and, hopefully even eager to do the job required, but no one is giving you serious consideration. How do you deal with this?
The first thing to do is find someone–anyone–to talk to. Even if it’s only the occasional e-mail or phone call, it will make you feel better to discuss your situation.
I’m blessed with an e-mail pal who patiently listens to my woes, and even offers good suggestions. If you don’t have anyone like that in your life, don’t panic. Talk to your physician. He or she may be able to recommend a good counselor. The fact that you are reading this posting, and other blogs, is also a good start. Simply knowing that you are not alone in your situation can sometimes help a little.
Since writing to my friend, I’ve slowly come to grips that the customer service, driving or library job that I’d love may not be in the cards right now. One of my major hurtles is a lack of recent work history. I went back to school to stop the cycle of working for minimum wage and/or back-breaking labor. Now, I can ruefully admit that that’s just where I’ve ended up again. Talking things out has helped me see that although the jobs are not ideal, at least they will show, later down the road, that I am a reliable employee. Thanks to my friend, I’ve managed to find a bit of ironic humor in all of this, and maybe my ego will weather my present situation. Talking is the key to personal crisis management. Don’t hold it in, or you may do yourself more harm than good.