Chapter 1: No Sucking-Up! - How to Get Promoted Without Sucking-Up
Frankly I don’t care much for the term “Sucking-Up.” It is a bit crude but it says so much. People understand the meaning and I have avoided other terms that are potentially even more offensive. Forgive me for the title I’ve chosen, but I had to somehow tell it like it is.
We’re probably all aware of people who spend more time trying to placate and impress bosses than actually doing any work. Some folks think all the glad-handing, hollow-praising and manipulations will payoff with promotions. The fact is, they sometimes do. We all know this is true, and I can’t think of anyone who isn’t annoyed by this fact except for the people who have been promoted this way.
If you value self-respect, the respect of your peers, and leaders, then sucking-up or faking your way to a promotion will leave you ashamed and wanting. Even if you earn more money, or have a better title, you will fall short of the goal. It’s really pretty basic when you get right down to it. People need to earn a living, but they need to do it in a way they can be proud of. They need to know that they are respected and even admired to some degree.
It really doesn’t matter what you do for a living, but whatever it is, you should be good at it. It’s tough for people to know they stink at their jobs. I’ve known a few people who knew they were “faking it” at their jobs. They paid a high price for trying to pass themselves off as competent outside of their skills and abilities.
There’s even a term for people whose positions exceed their abilities “The Peter Principle.” The “Peter Principle” is a theory originated by Dr. Laurence J. Peter. It states that successful members of a hierarchical organization are eventually promoted to their highest level of competence, after which, further promotion raises them to a level just beyond their highest level of competence. You could even say they are raised to a “level of incompetence.” Know anyone like this? Sure, we all do.
Living with yourself if you have been “faking-it” is really tough for most people. They constantly worry that they will be exposed and lose what they have, even if that is just imagined esteem from their peers.
So, by its very nature, sucking-up to get what you want when you don’t deserve it, will only leave you with less than you had before. You may be thinking that you know people who have worked their way to the top through sucking-up and maybe they did. Are they happy? Do they have the respect and admiration of anyone? Are they genuine and loved? Does anyone really like them? There’s a good chance you answered these questions with a no.
Children of the very wealthy seem to have a similar dilemma, though due to no fault of their own. They are constantly being evaluated and must prove themselves as “worthy” at every turn especially if they achieve advanced positions of status. I like to assume people in such situations have earned their rewards, though this clearly is not always the case.
Though I haven’t done it in years, I used to enjoy a little gambling at a nearby casino. Quite frankly I never lost much and I never won much either. Over time I sort of lost my taste for it and I’ve seen the destruction it causes in peoples lives.
One day a thought popped into my head; “what if I really won big?” Tens of thousands or even millions of dollars would be all mine for pulling a handle, pushing a button, or getting a good hand at the tables. I always knew that was a possibility, but when I really started to think about it and how it would affect my family and me, it lost its appeal.
The “dream home,” a log home on 20 acres I’ve been wanting for years, would come very easily with a jackpot, as would nice cars and the best things money could buy. On the surface that all sounds terrific, but the thought of living in a home I didn’t earn and driving cars that came through the luck of the draw, seems hollow and very unsatisfying. We all tend to cherish most the things we earn.
This analogy is used to illustrate a simple point. If you unethically or undeservedly manipulate your way to the top, the victory will not be as sweet or fulfilling as the one you have earned. Would you really like to be known as the person who had everything given to them? Not me.
Most all sucking-up is fairly transparent and shallow. Those who engage in it are usually desperate and needy. Bosses who allow it, or even encourage it, are pathetic and will eventually lose favor in the sight of higher bosses. Manipulative tactics that involve sucking-up almost always ruin the morale of those involved even if they are just innocent bystanders.
Sucking-up creates a competition based on the wrong things. It is very tough for moral upstanding people to compete in ways that are unbecoming, and in the end, denigrating. If the leaders of your company rose to their positions through sucking-up you are very likely in a highly dysfunctional company with limited effectiveness and staying power. Some leaders and poorly run companies seem to survive and even thrive in spite of themselves, but mostly they wane over time and fall prey to internal incompetence.
Most people have witnessed occasional sucking-up and maybe you have even sold-out to its trappings a time or two. I think I have inadvertently sucked-up a bit in the distant past, before realizing what I was doing. If you witness this type of manipulative self-destructive behavior among co-worker friends, then you might want to privately tell them your perception of how their behavior appears. Privately and tactfully is the key. That’s what friends do isn’t it?
In summary, sucking-up makes even good people look bad and pathetic. You lose self-respect as well as the respect of your co-workers and bosses. Don’t do it, and like the old drunk driving ad campaign states “Friends don’t let friends suck-up.”
Chapter 1 Summary Points
• Sucking-up and faking your way to promotions will be very unsatisfying for those who do it.
• The things you earn are the most cherished things in life.
• Many people get promoted beyond their level of competence, “The Peter Principle.”
• Sucking-up hurts employee morale and creates competition based on the wrong things.
• “Friends don’t let friends suck-up!”
Bill Hanover is author of “No Sucking-Up! How to Win the Job Promotions You Deserve” and a Lean Manufacturing Consultant. You may learn more about “No Sucking-Up” at www.nosuckingup.com or Bill’s consulting services at www.tpslean.com









