What is your agreement with your student?
I think parents are starting to wisen up, especially with the current economic situation.
The student's rights have excluded the parent from even knowing if their child is attending class let alone flunking out. The law seems to protect the student so you need to consider making a contract with your kiddo. No sharing of information? Then no money. Let them finance their college experience.
Parents are often ratcheting down their expenses so they can pay for their child's college, not knowing that their student is not even attending class. Maybe in someone's eyes, this is a violation of the students rights, but when the parents are putting their retirement in jeopardy, then I think, it is time for the parents to assert their rights to say "No".
I also think the student may need strong guidance, strong parenting. We put them at risk when we set them free before they are ready. There use to be curfews, dorm rules and social rules that protected our adults in the making. Now, it is almost total freedom unless they break the law. Even then, the parents are not the first to know.
So, what to do? Make an agreement with your student that there will be open sharing of grades. You might even request an accounting of how they are spending their (your) money. These kiddos really need your parenting, even if they don't know it. Not helicoptering, parenting.
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